I Tried Like 100 Arousal Oils — These 4 Are the Best
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Don’t hate me, but over the last year I’ve been sent more than like 100 different arousal oils from persistent PR folks (the perks of being a sex writer). But because things can get a little steamy-in-the-medical-way down there, I steered clear.
Then the global pandemic stole my libido. And, too impatient for the food for sex route, I decided to give all those arousal oils a test drive. Basically, they were a convenient way to get it on.
“Lube formulas are not designed to support the natural arousal process. They are only intended to add lubrication,” says somatic sex expert Kiana Reeves, a sex and community educator with Foria, a company that creates arousal oil products intended to reduce pain and increase pleasure during sex.
“Arousal oils are typically formulated to get blood flow moving in the genital direction. As a byproduct of boosted blood flow, many of these products can increase your capacity to pleasure.”
Arousal oils are formulated to enhance natural lubrication and typically shouldn’t be used for your vagina.
For all these products, I recommend external application only. For me, that meant vulva and around. That’s clit, clitoral hood, labia, and mons pubis. Not the vagina. Same goes if you have a penis — keep this fluid on the outside.
Intrigued? Lucky for all of you, I’m sharing a list of all the arousal oils that made my (ahem) cat purr — exactly the way I wanted it to.
Why I loved it
My pelvic floor muscles are cranky monsters. I have a hypertonic pelvic floor — that means there are times when I can’t get the muscles to relax, which can make penetration super uncomfy.
My pelvic floor therapist had previously suggested that I give an arousal oil with CBD in it a whirl. Why? Because not only is CBD thought to have relaxing properties), it’s also a vasodilator, meaning it promotes blood flow to the pelvic floor muscle tissues.
When I applied Foria Awaken, I literally felt the blood rush to my bits. The oil alone didn’t relax my pelvic floor enough for penetration, but the oil + a patient partner led to some of the best hand-sex of my life.
Obvi, no two folks experience pelvic pain the same way. But if you, too, experience any sort of pelvic pain during penetration, I’d suggest talking to your doc about Foria Awaken.
Remember: You shouldn’t “prescribe” yourself this oil in place of calling up your healthcare provider.
Note: There’s no detectable THC in Awaken, so you don’t have to worry about getting high. See the company’s test results for efficacy and potency here.
With a coconut oil base, Awaken is not latex-safe (never use oil-based products with latex). And because it contains coconut, folks with tree nut allergies shouldn’t use it.
Why I liked it
With a consistency somewhere between my go-to water-based lubes (ICYWW, Get Naked and Sliquid Sassy) and the other oil-based products on the list, Bloomi is by far the easiest *not* to spill.
My sheets: “Thank you!”
Beyond that, in my experience Bloomi lives up to its bold claim to “increase sexual arousal and make sex better.”
My clit is already super-duper sensitive, so the recommended 3 pumps were a little too sensating for my liking.
But the second (and third, etc.) time, I learned that a single pump of Bloomi was enough to pleasantly plump my labia. The tag team of Bloomi coating my labia and the Le Wand Point on my clit was divine.
What to keep in mind
At $58 a pop, this one’s on the pricier side. If you’ve never owned an external vibrator before, your quest for a better, stronger orgasm might be better served by investing in one with the same price. Sweet Vibe’s wand vibrator, Charmed, for instance, is only $44.99.
Why I liked it
Since it was created by board certified OB-GYN Dr. Karen Patrusky and is made from coconut oil and peppermint oil, you can bet this stuff is genital-friendly.
And that means all genitals. That’s right — folks of any sex or gender can enjoy this stuff.
My partner, who was assigned male at birth, said it best: “It’s like sprinkles on top of ice cream.” As in, it makes an already good thing (sex) even better.
My one complaint is that for a product that really can be used on all bodies, its motto is unnecessarily gendered: Enhance your feminine spirit.
Like, why use gendered and potentially triggering lingo when you could just… not?
Why I liked it
Developed with 100 percent natural botanical ingredients like sweet almond oil, rosemary extract, and cinnamon, Sensuva ON Arousal Oil is designed to make your bits buzz.
You might think of this product as a liquid vibrator. It didn’t rumble and roll against my ruby the way, say, a wand-style vibrator like the Hitachi Magic wand or Le Wand would. But it did feel as stimulating as a low cost bullet vibrator.
The only downside was that after 30 minutes I was ready for my bits to stop buzzing. And because I couldn’t yank this “vibrator’s” cord outta the wall or beeline for the “off” button when it stopped working for me, I was forced to bear it until it wore off. (The Sensuva website says that takes about 45 minutes, but in my experience it took slightly longer.)
That said, the setting on said “vibe” depends on which of the three Sensuva ON Arousal Oils you opt for: Mild, Original, or Ultra. Mild is 50 percent less intense than Original, and Ultra is 25 percent more intense than Original.
The first time you use it, start with the lower end of the 1 to 2 drop dose recommendation to make sure the product doesn’t work TOO well and cause physical discomfort so bad that you’ll be rubbing hard enough to pull your hair (err, pubes?) out.
Oh, and I have to say it: Nonbinary and trans folks, be warned — this product’s marketing spiel is gendered AF.
Wondering how you can light a fire (metaphorically) in bed? Read about arousal oils, the true aphrodisiacs between the sheets. Sex writer Gabrielle Kassel tested more than 100, and these are her faves.
Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD
Meet our bestselling Intimacy formula. This unique topical works with your body to enhance pleasure, ease discomfort, and help make great sex even better with a blend of broad-spectrum CBD and organic botanicals. Awaken was designed to support sexual wellness for women and people with vulvas – solo or with a partner. Approximately 30+ uses per bottle.
In addition to out-of-this-world orgasms, our community reports benefits for vaginismus, vulvodynia, interstitial cystitis, endometriosis, other pelvic and genital pain conditions, and relief of menopausal challenges.
Does CBD belong in your bedroom? The short answer is absolutely – and here’s why.
Used topically, CBD promotes increased bloodflow – a vital part of arousal and sexual pleasure.
CBD helps relax muscles & ease tension, supporting comfort where it counts.
Painful sex is more common than you’d think. CBD has been shown to help manage pain – gently and naturally.
Want to learn more? Check out this blog!
Organic MCT Coconut Oil. Whole-Plant Infusions (Organically Grown Hemp, Organically Grown Kava Root, Organic Cinnamon, Organic Ginger, Organic Vanilla)Organic Essential Oils (Cardamom, Peppermint) Cacao AbsoluteOur CBD comes from USDA organic-certified, regeneratively-grown hemp.
Free of alcohol, petroleum-based ingredients, phthalates, glycerin, parabens and dyes.
Never tested on animals.
Add as much as a full dropper to the clitoris, inner labia, and inside the vagina.
Gently massage & allow the botanicals to absorb and work their magic.
Oral-friendly & safe to ingest.
NOT FOR USE WITH LATEX OR POLY-ISOPRENE. Awaken is oil-based so any condoms, diaphragms or toys must be oil-safe materials.
Allergens: avoid use if you (or your partner) are allergic to any ingredients. Contains coconut oil, which is considered a “tree nut.”
If you are pregnant or take pharmaceutical drugs, please consult your physician before use.
Some people may experience sensitivities to our all-natural ingredients. We recommend doing a patch test before use. If you experience discomfort, discontinue use immediately and contact Foria Customer Care here.
Keep out of reach of children and pets.
Every ingredient and every batch of final product is independently tested for purity & potency.
View a summary of test results for each batch here.
1. What’s the difference between Awaken & Lube?
Awaken and Lube are unique, but designed to work together.
End user: Awaken is designed for women and people with vulvas. Lube can be enjoyed by any body.
Use: Awaken isn’t lube – it’s meant to be applied before sexual activity, to activate arousal. Lube keeps everything slippery and juicy and can be used generously for a sensual, moisturizing glide
Ingredients: Awaken is made with 9 organic plant-based aphrodisiacs, including Kava Kava, cacao, and CBD from broad-spectrum hemp extract. Lube has just two all-natural ingredients – broad-spectrum CBD and organic MCT coconut oil
Our community has found Awaken’s unique formula especially helpful for support with painful conditions like endometriosis, postpartum recovery, menopause challenges, vaginismus, and vulvodynia. The 200mg of CBD in Lube supports muscular relaxation and enhanced bloodflow.
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The first CBD sex oil formulated with broad-spectrum CBD, kava kava extract, and synergistic botanical and aromatic oils that enhances tactile sensation & pleasure while decreasing tension, discomfort and dryness.